Thrive After Divorce After the emotionally draining experience that is a divorce, you may find yourself feeling extremely glad that it is now over, but at the same time struggling to find your feet in this strange new world of being single. However, don’t let yourself linger on the past and what you have left behind, as your divorce gives you the chance to make a brand new start. Think about the things that you want to do, then go and do them. The only thing holding you back is you. Do all of the things you dream of doing. Whether that is trying a new hobby or returning to an old one, you have free time that is yours to spend however you like. By spending this time on the things you enjoy, you will feel much happier and be less likely to have regrets where your marriage and divorce are concerned. Go travelling. This is an opportunity to experience things you have never seen before, meet new people and visit any country you like. Maybe your ex didn’t enjoy travelling or you just didn’t agree on where you wanted to go, but it is now entirely up to you. Take advantage of the opportunities. Also, it has never been easier to travel on your own, thanks to the internet opening up so many more possibilities. Treat yourself. Some new clothes and perhaps a different haircut can make a huge difference to how you feel. Dare to try something that you would never have worn during your marriage – perhaps your spouse would have disapproved or simply wouldn’t have liked it. Well, you don’t have to please anyone but yourself now, so go ahead. Take care of yourself. It’s not always going to be easy after a divorce, so make sure you are taking good care of your health. Eat proper meals on a regular basis, do some exercise, and get enough sleep. These are the obvious points, but you may also want to think about the luxuries, such as going to a spa or getting a manicure sometimes. Even just buying yourself some flowers can help to brighten up your day if you aren’t feeling great. If you need support, find it. Your friends may change after a divorce, and this could be for any number of reasons. Perhaps they knew both you and your ex, and now find it easier to cut off all contact with one or both of you. Let them do this; you will be better off without them in the long term. The friends who really care about you will be there regardless of whether you are married, divorced, dating or single. These are the people you should be surrounding yourself with, and they should be encouraging you to turn your life into what you want it to be. These are only a few suggestions of things that you could be doing – don’t limit yourself, as you can go and try anything that you want.